No Notifications in the Barn
The other day I found one of my kids’ phones in the cupholder of the calf chore Kubota UTV. Battery dead, case cracked, and covered in a suspicious mix of calf slobber and dust. They hadn’t seen it in hours. Honestly? No one missed it.
Around here, we don’t do screen-free Sundays or social media fasts. We’ve got a different kind of detox, the kind that involves shovels, feed buckets, and the smell of fresh air (and sometimes less fresh air).
No fancy retreat required. Just boots and a little purpose.
We’re not anti-technology. We love a good group text and I’ve been known to online shop with barn gloves still on. But I’ve noticed something. The more time we spend outside, the less we reach for our screens.
And the more we do together, the more connected we actually feel.
What Farm Life Offers That Screens Don’t
You can’t double-tap a sunbeam or swipe away the mud on your jeans.
On the farm, our kids move their bodies. They problem-solve. They figure things out in real time, with real consequences.
A clean waterer, a bedded stall, a bucket of grain delivered at the right time — those are small wins that feel bigger than a cleared inbox or another TikTok scroll.
And animals? They’re the best audience. They don’t care what you look like or what your Snap score is. They just want to be fed — and maybe scratched behind the ears.
Our Version of "Unplugged"
You can’t text with nitrile gloves on. You can’t play Minecraft with a pitchfork in your hand.
When we ask the kids to “plug in” to the farm, we’re really asking them to unplug from everything else.
At first, yes there’s some groaning. Eye rolling. “Do I have to?”
But after a few minutes of fresh air, real work, and maybe a laughing fit after someone slips in the mud? They forget what they were even whining about.
Boredom fades. Screens become less shiny. Real life comes into focus.
What We’ve Learned From Logging Off
Fewer meltdowns. More peace. Real conversation over dinner. A little more patience between siblings.
Nobody’s perfect, and yes, we still have days when someone sneaks off with a tablet. But overall? The less we lean on screens, the more grounded everyone feels.
Even the adults. Especially the adults.
And I’ll say this, bedtime goes a whole lot smoother when your body’s been busy, not just your thumbs.
Advice for Families Wanting a Reset
You don’t need a herd of cattle to find this kind of reset, although if you do, 10/10 I'd recommend it. You just need to be intentional.
Start with a “no phone” hour each evening. Go on a walk. Plant a garden. Build something. Fold laundry together. Wash the car by hand.
The key? Make it physical. Make it hands-on.
Teach your kids it’s okay to be bored. That silence isn’t a problem that needs fixing. That their worth isn’t tied to a like or a follower count.
They’ll fight it at first. That’s normal. But give it time, and you’ll start to see them come back to life.
Real Life Is Happening Right Here
I’m not against tech. But I am 100% for presence.
And I’ve learned that when the phones are down and the chores are calling, something beautiful happens.
We talk more. We laugh more. We notice the sky. We wipe our boots at the door and feel like we did something.
You don’t need a farm to live this way. But if you’re looking for a reset — something real, something grounding — just start with your hands.
Screens can wait. The good stuff? It’s all right here.